Being a therapist has made me quiet headstrong and although empathy has a big role to play in my decision making capabilities, most of the times getting emotional proves to be a unfavourable thing while rehabilitating a child
Kids are a constant source of joy and a bundle of energy. But only when it’s all fun and games. When it comes to following rules or doing things our way, they often tend to get stubborn. So when i am tasked with making a child do something he or she doesn’t like to , it can be quite frustrating to be at the receiving end of their tantrums and misbehaviour.
What I have learnt is that you need not be a good cop or a bad cop all the time trying to discipline the child. What the child wants is to be heard. The way a child acts out can just be an expression of a want or a need. So try to really listen to the child for once. Reason out his demands and understand the root of the demand and the consequence in his mind if the demand is not fulfilled.
It’s easy to believe that the child is spoilt and wants something just out of habit of getting things. But kids are usually not that vain and have some rationale behind wanting things or insisting their ways. Once we reach the root cause of a want or a demand it’s easier to find a way out.
Substituting a demand with practical solutions is one effective technique but make sure the solution is practical to the child as well and not just for you.